Scrooge Lives Here
November 14, 2009 at 9:55 pm | In All Things Doodle, Caityisms, Family Ties | Leave a CommentTags: kids, Baby, Toddler, Grandkids, grumpy toddler, Toddler meltdown, Christmas
My work cancelled our Kids’ Christmas party. We had 23 kids signed up at a local bouncy castle place. Santa was coming. There was going to be pizza, pop and a small gift for each child. The kids could have had their pictures taken with Santa. It would have cost us a grand total of $600. A $77 Billion company has to cancel a Kids party over $600 measly bucks. That’s really sad. Morale around the office is pretty bad right now, but this makes it worse. They had cancelled our adult party and everyone was ok with that because no one wanted to go. The boss wanted a sit down dinner dance. There’s maybe 90 of us. In previous years, we’ve always had a cocktail party where you could wander around to talk to different people, snarf down delicious appetizers and get snackered. Sit down dinner dances, which are only good if you have numbers in the hundreds, went out in the 90’s – but then our boss still refers to us women as Secretaries, so go figure. He’s stuck in a time warp.
I told Lexy yesterday that the party had been cancelled. She immediately began to cry. “No Santa??” she tearfully asked me. I felt like Scrooge.

Ok Mr. Boss man. You tell this little face she won’t get to see “Ho-Ho” this year. The above picture was Caity at Hallowe’en by the way, dressed up as a Faerie, she was so cute hugging her Magic Wand.
The kids had a great time last year, except Caity was terrified of Santa. “Noooooo Ho-Ho Momma!” she kept yelling at me, trying to crawl up my shoulder. Lexy, however, being the more materialistic of the two, tried to become his best friend.

Nooooo Ho-Ho Mommy
Well I suppose there’s always next year. They’ll still be little, right?
You Want Some Coffee With That?
November 6, 2009 at 9:24 pm | In Caityisms, Family Ties | 2 CommentsTags: Baby, kids, Toddler Talk
Caity has very fine hair. Any time she lies down for a nap/bed time/cuddle on the couch/whatever, her hair sticks out in one big matted mess at the back of her head. Every. Single. Time.
Without fail.
It looks like she’s never seen a hair brush in her life.
She’s now almost three, which is something I both love and hate at the same time. She is my baby and my last baby, yet she’s quickly becoming a big girl (potty training notwithstanding).
She’s usually the most easy-going person I’ve ever met. The house could be burning down and Cait would simply shrug her shoulders. Must be the Aquarian in her.
One thing I absolutely love about her is when she gets into a groove, she never gets out. For example, the other morning I was brushing the rat’s nest formerly known as her hair, or trying to anyway. She had something sticky in her hair, presumably from daycare (or last night’s dinner).
Caity: “Owwww Mummy!”
Me: “Sorry Caity, but you’re the one who got the knots in your hair.”
Tugging, trying to untangle, getting stuck on something in her hair….
Me: “Cait.” I stop brushing and look at her. “What did you get in your hair?”
Caity: “Donuts.”
She says that straight-faced. Every. Single. Morning.
No matter how many days in a row, I ask her what she got in her hair, she says the same thing … “Donuts”.
Doesn’t matter that she hasn’t had a donut in ages. Somehow, magically, donuts keep winding up in her tangled, matted hair.
I’m sure tomorrow morning, when I attempt to detangle her hair again, if I ask her what’s in her hair, she’ll simply say “Donuts”.
You’re cute kid. You make me laugh. Thank you.
Crazy Week
November 3, 2009 at 12:06 pm | In All Things Doodle, CKD, Caityisms, Daddy-O, Family Ties, Kidney Disease, Miscellaneous Crap, Sisters | Leave a CommentTags: Baby, CKD, facebook, Grandkids, IgA, kids, nephrophy, PD Catheter
We’re off to the hospital in a few minutes. Alex is having his PD Catheter removed because the silly thing never worked and it got infected. They want him healed before he has the transplant.
Tomorrow I’m taking the kids to the Doctor’s office to get their H1N1 shots. My doctor is holding a ‘clinic’ for his patients only on Wednesday (for high risk) and Saturday for the rest of us. I’ll go on Saturday. I’ll likely have to bring the kids too because Alex has Dialysis on Saturdays and Lord knows how long we’ll be at the office.
My Sitter’s daughter is really sick, fever, sore neck – don’t think it’s H1N1 but I’m kind of worried about her being there with the wee ones running around … She even has one of the babies sleeping in the sick girl’s room … eek.
Other than that it’s been three days I think since I’ve last visited Facebook. Apparently that’s the right amount of time to get over an addiction. I no longer think about having to check it all the time. Finally some peace.
Caity’s sleeping in her big girl bed now, has been for the past two nights. On Sunday night, we couldn’t wipe the smile off her face, she was so proud and happy to be in the bed. It was very cute, seeing her all snuggled, clutching her blankets to her face, smiling. She looked so little in the single bed, like a little baby in a crib. My baby’s growing up – she’ll be three in February. Eeek!
Lexy has decided that since Caity has a new bed, she wants one too. She tried to tell me that she’s nearly outgrown her current single bed (not likely). She said “look Mommy, my feet almost touch the bottom” … yeah almost touch the bottom in another two feet … nice try kid. You’re keeping that bed for a bit. At least until we get enough money to buy you a proper bedroom set.
Enough is Enough
October 31, 2009 at 11:53 am | In CKD, Family Ties, Kidney Disease | 4 CommentsTags: H1N1, H1N1 Flu Shot, propoganda, facebook, twitter
***UPDATE***
Before reading my rant below, it should be said that this isn’t directed at the circle of friends infamously known as “da boys”. It’s targetted at a different group of people I know and everything I’ve heard from people all around me. As I’ve said to a few people already, maybe I’ve finally lost my mind. I apologize to that circle of friends for the misunderstanding, your friendship and opinions are valued and I hope I haven’t hurt anyone because of it.
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I’ve deactivated my Facebook account. I don’t understand why people feel the need to post the fact that they’re in the bathroom having their daily constitutional via Facebook Mobile. I’m getting so sick and tired of that silly site and everyone’s soapbox. The only thing worse than Facebook is Twitter and all those Twitheads who care about this crap. Really, who cares about what super expensive and ugly shoes Kim Kardashian “tweeted” about buying five seconds ago? I’m more concerned about being able to pay the bills and keeping a roof over my kids’ head when my husband will be off work for three months, post surgery. What really annoys me the most is all the alarmists out there who have heard the latest scare about H1N1 and continue to listen to, and spread the propoganda. The reliable sources (i.e., mainstream media) have said there’s no truth to the neurological problems created by the H1N1 vaccine, yet even my MIL has been harping about it, frightened that she will be “the one” that it happens to. Give me the proverbial break, you’re not that lucky. Play the lottery if you believe in odds like that. Read this: http://www.healthzone.ca/health/newsfeatures/swineflu/article/718829–vaccine-phobia-runs-deep. Yes, it’s not the New England Journal of Medicine, but mainstream nonetheless.
The only reason to not get the shot is if you have an allergy to eggs or metal. Zip. That’s it.
You have a greater risk of dying in an airplane crash than from receiving the H1N1 Flu shot, yet people still fly … funny isn’t it?
And thank you to all of you assholes who refuse to get the shot because of some propoganda you read in the Enquirer for putting the rest of us who haven’t received it yet at risk. Just because a story is in print, doesn’t make it the truth. Elvis does NOT live in your neighbour’s refrigerator!
I’m so fucking sick of all the drama.
There are enough real problems in the world that we have to deal with that we don’t need this bullshit on top of it.
I’m sick of “if you get the shot you’ll die/become paralysed/have your head fall off (insert flavour of the day here)”.
I’m sick of “if you get the shot, you’ll harm your kids”.
I’m sick of “if you don’t get the shot, you’ll harm your kids”.
I may not be university educated but I certainly don’t need a lecture on how to live properly from those who are or who think they are.
Can’t wait to hear the outcome of this one…
It’s Been a While…
October 21, 2009 at 8:16 pm | In CKD, Daddy-O, Family Ties, Kidney Disease, Miscellaneous Crap, The Crap that Men Do, Toeses and Noses | 2 CommentsTags: blogging, CKD, Dialysis, IgA, kids, PD, PD Catheter
Sorry I haven’t written in a bit, been a lot going on lately. Last Thursday was my husband’s 30th birthday. I don’t think he was particularly looking forward to the great event. I tried to surprise him by taking him to Dave and Busters with our friends Candace, Greg and Sib, but he claims he “knew”. I think he knew something was up, I mean how could I forget his big birthday? Why on earth would I want to go to the Bass Pro Shop (that’s the line of bull I fed him)? I can’t imagine this is what he thought it was though. Our other friends (Scott & Jessi, Brian & Sophie and Paul & Kelly) were waiting for us when we got there and it was so nice to see everyone. Some of our group couldn’t be there because they were working, but they were thought of nonetheless. We hadn’t been together in a long time, too long I think. It was a wonderful night, good conversation, lots of games and too much to eat and drink! By the way Paul, where is my Stella glass??
On Saturday, Alex and I will have been together for ten years. A huge milestone, especially when you consider that the longest relationship I had prior to meeting Alex lasted a total of 8 months …
In those ten years:
- We’ve had two beautiful babies.
- We’ve bought a house together.
- We got married.
- We’ve loved.
- We’ve cried.
- We’ve laughed.
- Most of our friends have careers.
- Most of our friends had either gotten married or engaged.
- Most of our friends now have children.
- Most of our friends have homes of their own.
- Most of our friends have just turned/will soon turn 30. 1979 was a popular year!
In other words, we’ve grown up.
In those ten years, I finally learned what our friends’ real names were (having being introduced and only ever referred to by a nickname: Bear, Sib, Shrigs, Suddes, Whopper, Fox).
The best part of the last ten years is that no matter what happens, no matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen each other last – if you really need them, they will be there for you. They truly are friends and they’ve never shown it more than over these past few months that we’ve been dealing with Alex’s illness. Thanks again everyone!
I have a good husband. He is an amazing father. Our children adore him, as do I – even when he’s bad
*I let Alex read this post and his only comment: “I’m never bad” … my reaction: pfffttt!*
A Milestone
October 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm | In Family Ties | Leave a CommentHappy 50th Wedding Anniversary Mom & Dad. You have reached a significant milestone that I only hope to reach one day. I know you won’t be reading this, because, well you wouldn’t know the first thing about turning on a computer, let alone how to find this blog. Mom, I know the journey you and Dad started back in the mid-50’s has taken you down many roads and you have weathered many storms. You always made us feel loved and valued in our home. We didn’t have much when we were growing up, but we always had delicious food and warm hugs. Dad, you always made us feel safe. You have always been my Superman. You were always willing to teach us something new, help us with homework or play with us in the snow.
I am so glad that my children haven had the chance to get to know you, love you and learn from you.
I think the story goes that when Mom and Dad went on their first date, when the night was over, my Dad asked my Mom if he could see her again. She said “No”. He asked, “Why not?”.
She couldn’t think of an answer, so they went out again and now they’ve been married for 50 years.
They have received a certificate of congratulations from Prime Minister Harper, and Queen Elizabeth. There’s a third one too but I can’t remember who it’s from. They are hand signed, framed and I’m sure they’ll have a place of honour in their home very soon. A sure conversation piece.
We’re looking forward to our dinner on Sunday with our friends and family. Another night to create more memories. Memories for the next generation.
May you have fifty more wonderful years together. We love you.
A Frightening Thought
October 8, 2009 at 9:32 pm | In All Things Doodle, Caityisms, Daddy-O, Family Ties, Miscellaneous Crap, Sisters | Leave a CommentTags: birthday, kids, Things that kids say, Toddler speak
Alex and I had dinner tonight later than the girls. We made Spaghetti and the girls had grilled cheese sammies. Naturally they were still hungry and wanted to mooch some of what we had.
I made a small plate up for Lexy and I shared my dinner with Caity.
We were chatting, the four of us, while we ate. Lexy was trying to teach Caity the “proper” way to sing the “A-B-Cs”, Caity mooched most of my dinner like she’s never eaten before.
I said to Caity that when she’s a teenager, she was going to eat me out of house and home.
Lexy said, “Who Mom?”
“Both of you.” I said.
“I’m older.” Said Lexy. “When Caity’s a teenager, I’m going to be a parent!”
As the math calculation was quickly formulating in my head, I realized that when Caity turns 13, Lexy will only be 16. Her Dad and I looked at each other and eyes wide I said, “NO YOU’RE NOT!”. Obviously not realizing what she had just said, Lexy looked confused.
“Lex, you’re not even allowed to start dating until you’re 30!”
I know her comment was innocent. I know 6 is the new 15, but really why are kids in such a hurry to grow up? Slow down please my darling girl. Your sister is almost 3 and you’re both growing too fast as it is. Earlier in the evening when Lexy and I went to the store, she asked how old she had to be to sit in the front seat. I said 12. To her, the front seat is the power seat. It means you’re an adult because only big people get to sit in the front. Even at 6 years old, she understands the concept.
She’s desperate to sit up front, and I’m desperate to keep her in the back. I wonder where the time’s gone.
Tomorrow is my Parent’s 50th Wedding Anniversary. If I make that milestone with Alex, I’ll be 89 years old. My Mom tells me all the time stories about when I was Lexy’s age. I know she wonders where the time’s gone.
Next week is Alex’s 30th birthday. I bet his Mom wonders where the time has gone too…
Viral, Bacterial or Allergy …?
October 4, 2009 at 11:18 am | In Caityisms, Family Ties | 2 CommentsTags: kids, Toddler Sick, Asthma
Caity came home with a cough on Friday, we didn’t think much of it because Lexy currently has that deep barrel-chested-phlegmy cough that everyone at her school currently has. We figured it was just the start of that. I gave her some cough medicine and put her to bed around the normal time she goes down. I could hear her on the monitor, moaning about an hour after I put her down. I know what this means, a fever. I know my kid very well. All week she was sleeping badly, waking several times a night with a moan or a groan and she was very tired and grumpy as well. I took her temperature and it was at 101.7 so I woke her to give her some Tylenol. That helped with the fever but in the middle of the night, Alex woke me and told me she was breathing funny. Her breathing was shallow and rapid, like she couldn’t catch her breath or was jogging – not like she had been sleeping for hours already. I had the vaporizer in her room going and I suggested letting her get some sleep. At least her fever was down. I told Alex that if she wasn’t better in the morning I’d take her to the clinic. I took her downstairs and sat on the couch with her for a couple of hours until she fell back asleep, then brought her back to bed.
In the morning I could hear her breathing from my room. It was a raspy wheeze. She still wanted to get up and play though. The fever was back.
I took her to the clinic and hoped it wouldn’t be busy – it was. When we were signing in I heard the receptionist say to someone “there’s 12 people ahead of you” – oh boy. Caity wanted me to pick her up. I put her on the counter while I handed in her health card and told the receptionist that she was having trouble breathing. She looked alarmed and said she would get the nurse to see her right now. We barely made it to the reception chairs when they called her name. I could tell the other people sitting there were a little miffed that we budded in line, but they take breathing problems seriously.
The nurse came in and did the initial triage and asked if she had Asthma. I told her not that I know of but it’s in the family, including me. They took her blood oxygen and heart rate through that little finger clip. Her oxygen was down to 91 (100 is normal) at first count and her pulse was at 161. Her little heart was working overtime trying to get enough oxygen pumping through her system. They said it was low, not good but not horrible. The doctor flew in, asked me a bunch of questions and ordered a Ventolin mask. She sat like a very good girl with the mask on for about 15 minutes and they tested her stats again – the oxygen level was up to 93 a slight improvement and her heart rate was around the same.
The doctor said she her fever and wheezing could have caused by a virus, a bacterial infection or an allergic reaction to something. Since there was no way to know for sure, he prescribed an antibiotic. He said ignoring it would be the fastest way to get to the hospital. Her other prescriptions include steroids – both liquid and an inhalant (Flovent). She also has a rescue inhaler too (Salbutamol, a.k.a. Ventolin). I had to buy an air chamber too because its impossible to get a toddler to inhale the medication properly otherwise. The doctor ordered that she stay away from other kids for a couple of days.
It was pretty friggin’ scary yesterday. She was so good at the doctors. She wanted to play but was ordered to keep still. It was hard for her.
All the medication she had yesterday knocked her out and she slept for four hours in the afternoon. Her fever broke, had some more medicine and was wired for sound. One of the effects of the Salbutamol is hyperactivity – hard to keep her quiet when she wants to run around.
I remember there were times earlier when she’d be running around and she’d start coughing. That’s the same way I was as a kid, I had “exercise induced Asthma“. I had to be excused from gym class. I rarely had a spontaneous Asthma attack, but when I did, it was horrible – my lungs felt like they were on fire and I couldn’t breathe. I know how my poor kid feels, it’s awful.
She had a better night, but she’s still a bit wheezy.
A Modern Day Hero
September 24, 2009 at 6:26 pm | In Daddy-O, Family Ties, Kidney Disease | 1 CommentTags: CKD, IgA, Dialysis, PD, PD Catheter, nephropathy, kidney transplant, organ donation, green ribbon campaign, Sign Your Donor Card!
There’s an article in today’s Globe and Mail that’s very near and dear to my heart. It’s a story about Lisa Sayer who decided after reading an article on Organ Donation, to donate her own kidney – to a perfect stranger. This precious gift had a domino effect and four people received new kidneys as a result of Lisa’s generosity. Incredible.
You can email questions to Lisa, via the Globe and Mail and she will try to answer them. They will be published next Tuesday. If you want to ask Lisa about her amazing journey, write to her at this address: lifediscussions@globeandmail.com before 2 p.m. (EST) on Friday September 25, 2009.
I simply sent her a comment. I said “Thank you”.
As an update on our end, it’s been pretty trying. A real roller coaster. Alex’s PD catheter does not work. at. all. It was a waste of a procedure, an unnecessary procedure that caused him so much pain but gave him some hope that he would be free from Hemodialysis. His Dad’s last blood test, for tissue matching, came out positive! He only has one more thing to do, a stress test, and then the two of them could be on the operating table by Christmas!
It’s not all good news though. One of Alex’s tests came back and there’s some concern now with his heart. It appears as though some part of it is not receiving enough oxygen. You know that saying “when one door closes, another one opens?” Here it feels more like “when one door closes, another door closes”. He had a test earlier this summer whereby they injected him with the Radioactive Isotope Thallium. Because of the current Chalk River Isotope crisis (stoopid short sighted arrogant AECL), they didn’t have any of the normal short half-life Isotopes available that they normally use, so they had to use Thallium which has a half life of 12 days. I don’t know if the test results are the same with both but we’re hoping that there was some sort of explanation that is easier to bear than heart failure. We’re not sure what caused the damage to his heart, it could have been the drugs he’s taking as a result of his disease, the disease itself (although it’s rare that IgA attacks anything other than kidneys), or the drugs he was taking to control his blood pressure before he was diagnosed, or simply damage done from the undiagnosed high blood pressure in his early 20’s.
I hope they won’t stop the transplant. I hope it’s minor. I’m so stressed right now I can’t sleep.
He has another test coming up where, get this, the MANDATORY prep is: eating a bowl of Jello. Yes, seriously.
I wonder what test you have to take that requires you to each chocolate. You can sign me up for that one please.
Bubbles!
September 11, 2009 at 9:33 am | In All Things Doodle, Contests, Family Ties, Miscellaneous Crap, Sisters | Leave a CommentTags: babies, Baby, kids, Voting
It’s Lexy’s turn to be in the voting spot light. I submitted a picture of Lexy when she was our Flower Girl at my Wedding three years ago. She would not hold still, she ran around, cried, Uncle Sean had to chase after her – she certainly tried to steal the spotlight!

Pretty Flower Girl
She was beautiful that day though
Please go to this website to vote for Lexy: http://durhamregionbaby.com/2009/09/photo-friday-bubbles/
click on “Read the Rest of this Entry” and find Lexy’s name below the pictures. Click on her name, then click on “vote”.
Thanks!!
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